Touching the opposite sex

Touching the opposite sex

© Shuaibat Muhammad-Raji
2021-03-09

It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.” 

 

Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadeeth is Saheeh. 

 

One of the beauties of teaching is the ability to shape kids' lives. The ability to instill the fear of Allah and respect for humanity in them, the ability to teach them about the deen. You do not have to be so rigid when teaching. Have conversations with them, correct their mistakes and pick up topics from those conversations. Teach them never to compromise, tell them stories of the companions, ask them who their role models are. Kids look up to their role models.

All these aren't necessarily in their scheme, it's your own contribution. Remember teaching is a win-win profession, you learn and earn, they pay to learn.

 

I noticed something today in class and it happens that it is so common in schools and it's the issue of touching.

Nailah(actual name withheld) wanted to borrow Imtiyaaz's pen (actual name withheld), so, she called his attention by tapping his shoulder. I saw this but I intentionally didn't say anything to her.

I decided to generalize the correction and I, therefore, said to them "do you know it's haraam to touch the opposite sex not related to you?". I know I should have used non-mahram, but there wasn't enough time to explain the issue of mahram and non-mahram. so I tried to simplify my correction for it to be clearer.

Well, they tried giving excuses. So I asked another question.

"If I decide to drive a nail into your skull would you be able to endure it?". Well, you know the answer already.

It is easy to start educating the kids about the dos' and don'ts of the Deen while they are still young, so they'd grow up knowing their obligations and duties. And what's more beautiful than striking while the iron is hot?

I went further by quoting the Hadith of the prophet that says, I forgot then that it was narrated by Ma'qil though.

It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.” 

 

Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadeeth is Saheeh. 

 

And I concluded by saying " Remember Islaam has rules and it is our duty as Muslims to follow those rules."

 

In the case of necessity, scholars agree that it is permissible to touch the opposite sex. Be sincere when you are regarding a situation as necessary.

Before I drop my pen to end this episode, let's take a look at the four schools of thought and their opinions regarding this issue.

1 – The Hanafi madhhab: 

Ibn Nujaym said: 

It is not permissible for a man to touch a woman’s face or hands even if there is no risk of desire because it is haraam in principle and there is no necessity that would allow it.

 Al-Bahr al-Raa’iq, 8/219 

2 – The Maaliki madhhab: 

Muhammad ibn Ahmad (‘Ulaysh) said: 

It is not permissible for a man to touch the face or hand of a non-mahram woman, and it is not permissible for him to put his hand on hers without a barrier. ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never accepted a woman’s oath of allegiance by shaking hands with her; rather he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to accept their oath of allegiance by words only.” According to another report, “His hand never touched the hand of a woman, rather he would accept their oath of allegiance by words only.” 

(Manh al-Jaleel Sharh Mukhtasar Khaleel, 1/223) 

3 – The Shaafa’i madhhab: 

Al-Nawawi said: 

It is not permissible to touch a woman in any way. 

Al-Majmoo’, 4/515. 

4 – The Hanbali madhhab 

Ibn Muflih said: 

Abu ‘Abd-Allaah – i.e., Imam Ahmad – was asked about a man who shakes hands with a woman. He said, No, and was emphatic that it is haraam. I said, Should he shake hands with her from beneath his garment? He said, No. 

Shaykh Taqiy al-Deen also favored the view that it is prohibited, and gave the reason that touching is more serious than looking. 

AlAdaab al-Shar’iyyah, 2/257 

 

I'll love to conclude with a Hadith of the prophet that says:

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “I do not shake hands with women.”  

(Adapted from Hashiyat Majmoo’at Rasaa’il fi’l-Hijaab wa’l-Sufoor, p. 69)

 

 

--Shuaibat Muhammad-Raji




Máa Sha Allaah. Jazaakillaahu khayron ukhtii for this reminder. May Allah preserve you upon good for this Ummah. Aameen.


Azeezat

JazakumuLlahu khairan May Allah reward you. Aameen


Bint Mas'ud

This is a beautiful piece, jazakillah khayr.May Allah increase you in beneficial knowledge.







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